At times, we wonder why things won't move as fast as we think that they should. Darn I wish that this divorce was over, darn I wish I could meet someone new, darn how I wish I had money right now, darn I wish I had a job, darn I wish this and that.
Yes, we have, at times, been anxious for things to happen. But, you know that patience is something that we must learn over time. Why? Because there is an order to everything and nothing can be completed or come to fruition until specific steps are taken.
One of my children was in such a rush to grow up, get an apartment, and live out on her own. No matter how she pushed or manipulated, nothing went anywhere near how she wanted it to go. She wanted the apartment before she had the job. She wanted the great paying job before getting her high school education.
She wanted everything fast!
I had a heart to heart talk to her. It was explained to her that she must first have a means in which to pay for the apartment, but first she needed to complete the application. She moaned and groaned over this tasks, but then realized that if not done, there would be no chance of ever getting the apartment. With drudgery and great effort, she gathered all documents needed.
The next day, with a look of confidence, she walked into the Apartment Manager's office. As the documents were being sorted and checked off , my daughter held her breath. Finally, at the completion, a big sigh of relief was expressed ..
As the days passed, she realize that the time was going to come as usual, in 24 hour spurts. There was nothing that could be done, but to wait. In the mean while, the best thing was to just prepare by job hunting for a part-time job, and by registering for classes.
To make a little extra money, she began doing hair styles for friends or for whomever wanted a quick style. I must say, she was doing a very awesome job.
Back to the beginning point that I was trying to get across, patience includes effort, planning, and, at times, lots of waiting!
Eventually, You may get what you want, if it is for you. But remember being patient doesn't mean rushing or trying to jump or skip steps in trying to get the end result.
Friday, October 19, 2012
Friday, October 12, 2012
Don't Push. Don't Shove. Allah Knows Best!
During life we have all tried to push, force, or make something happen that we later found out to be the greatest thing not to have happened!
I had been divorced from my husband for 5 years. Many relatives continuously asked, "when are you going to get married?" To tell the truth, I just wasn't ready! I still was not over my ex-husband. We had been together for nearly 2 decades.
My biggest mistake was to stop waiting on Allah and to start listening to those around me. I took it upon myself to start viewing dating sites. I was too shy to initiate anything, and I rarely went anywhere to even talk to anyone other than my family or to my neighbors.
After a couple of weeks, I started to communicate with someone. Didn't think that there was any harm in it because we didn't meet in person, we couldn't really see each other, and we didn't have the risks of touching each other. The conversation was nice, especially, when most of my time was spent on my children's matters. Adult subjects and talks was a welcomed breath of fresh air.
As the weeks progressed in conversation, I thought that I knew this person well enough to meet him. But, not alone. We decided to meet at the hospital where his father was a patient. The person was older than what he'd stated in his profile. I forgave this issue and blinded the truth.
In the following weeks, he lulled me with trips, gifts, credit cards, rides on his motor cycle, and dinners at fancy restaurants. This was just what I thought I wanted and needed because I had been through so much heart ache and tears over the years. Struggling to make ends meet, trying to make meals for my children out of noodles, not having enough gas to go to a job interviews, and not being able to buy myself clothing in 10 years. Yes, I really thought that this was what I needed.
Even though I continued to pray, I still wasn't really listening to what Allah was saying. All of the glitter made me forget that Shaitan was always near.
I then married this person, after only a couple of months. Three days into the marriage, he began to treat me very, very cruel. Two days later, he tried to kill me by choking. I will spare you the details.
The thing is, I'd stopped putting Allah's guiding voice first. Shaitan took this, ran with my temporary blindness and deafness, and then trapped me in a situation where I nearly lost my life. .
The point is this, don't push, force, or manipulate a situation to please others. If it is not happening in Allah's time and in His way, it will be disastrous. Allah is All Knowing. When we ignore His teachings and His voice, we will find ourselves in the clutches of Shaitan. Just pray for Allah's guidance at all times, and remember to always listen to him. Again, Allah is All Knowing. He knows what your relatives and friends don't know, and that which they will never know.
Allahu Akbar!
I had been divorced from my husband for 5 years. Many relatives continuously asked, "when are you going to get married?" To tell the truth, I just wasn't ready! I still was not over my ex-husband. We had been together for nearly 2 decades.
My biggest mistake was to stop waiting on Allah and to start listening to those around me. I took it upon myself to start viewing dating sites. I was too shy to initiate anything, and I rarely went anywhere to even talk to anyone other than my family or to my neighbors.
After a couple of weeks, I started to communicate with someone. Didn't think that there was any harm in it because we didn't meet in person, we couldn't really see each other, and we didn't have the risks of touching each other. The conversation was nice, especially, when most of my time was spent on my children's matters. Adult subjects and talks was a welcomed breath of fresh air.
As the weeks progressed in conversation, I thought that I knew this person well enough to meet him. But, not alone. We decided to meet at the hospital where his father was a patient. The person was older than what he'd stated in his profile. I forgave this issue and blinded the truth.
In the following weeks, he lulled me with trips, gifts, credit cards, rides on his motor cycle, and dinners at fancy restaurants. This was just what I thought I wanted and needed because I had been through so much heart ache and tears over the years. Struggling to make ends meet, trying to make meals for my children out of noodles, not having enough gas to go to a job interviews, and not being able to buy myself clothing in 10 years. Yes, I really thought that this was what I needed.
Even though I continued to pray, I still wasn't really listening to what Allah was saying. All of the glitter made me forget that Shaitan was always near.
I then married this person, after only a couple of months. Three days into the marriage, he began to treat me very, very cruel. Two days later, he tried to kill me by choking. I will spare you the details.
The thing is, I'd stopped putting Allah's guiding voice first. Shaitan took this, ran with my temporary blindness and deafness, and then trapped me in a situation where I nearly lost my life. .
The point is this, don't push, force, or manipulate a situation to please others. If it is not happening in Allah's time and in His way, it will be disastrous. Allah is All Knowing. When we ignore His teachings and His voice, we will find ourselves in the clutches of Shaitan. Just pray for Allah's guidance at all times, and remember to always listen to him. Again, Allah is All Knowing. He knows what your relatives and friends don't know, and that which they will never know.
Allahu Akbar!
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Tuesday, October 9, 2012
IF YOU FALL SHORT,.............
We all sometimes fall short.
"Be careful to lower your gaze", "Do not take a second gaze", "Do not be alone with the person that you have asked to marry or who has asked you to marry them".
Those sayings from the Hadith are all good advice. This is to help men and women from falling into the woes of temptation.
We all, at sometime or another have been tempted to do things that is considered sinful. Perhaps our desire for someone that we are engaged to became a temptation that lead us to doing things that only should be done after the marriage. Maybe a stolen kiss, a touch of the hand, gazing into the eyes. Yes, all of these are No-Nos. One thing can lead to another, especially, if there is not a third party present.
To avoid this temptation, make sure that there is a relative present when with your future wife or future husband. Do not gaze into the persons eyes or passion may spring, try to avoid touching or the senses may take over. Much of this will be avoided, if a chaperon, a relative, or third person is accompanying the two of you.
Just know that. if there is no one accompanying you, that the third party may turn out to be the Shaitan. Meaning, he will be delighted to entertain those temptations which fall into sin.
Have your guard up at all times. If you should sin, feel ashamed, and sorrowful afterwards, come before Allah, repent, and ask for forgiveness.
The Tauba is where to start.
I beg the forgiveness of the Lord save Whom there is no God, the living, the Eternal. Unto Him do I turn penitent.
The Prophet has said, “Whoever will offer penitence to God and implore His forgiveness through this Kalima God will forgive him even if he has fled from the field of Jehad which is a most mortal sin in the sight of God.”
And again: “Whoever will recite this Kalima thrice before going to sleep God will forgive his sins even though they may be as profuse as the foam of the sea,”
Sometimes the sacred Prophet used to recite only (I implore the forgiveness of the Lord). It is a very brief phrase and we should try to cultivate the habit of repeating it every now and then.
Saiyyid-el-Istighfar
It is related that the holy Prophet once remarked that the following prayer was Saiyyid-el-Istighfar (the leader of all the prayer formulas of Istighfar).
O God! Thou art my Lord, There is no God save Thee. Thou art my Creator and I am Thy slave. I abide by Thy covenant and promise as best as I can. I seek refuge in Thee from the mischief of what I have wrought. I acknowledge unto Thee Thy favour which Thou hast bestowed upon me, I also confess mine inequity; so forgive me for none forgiveth sins save Thee.
Says the Prophet:
“He who will offer repentance and beg the forgiveness of God reciting this prayer with faith and sincerity during day-time then if he died on that day, before nightfall, he shall go to Heaven, and he who will recite it at night, with faith and sincerity, and then if he died on that night, before day-break, he shall go to Heaven.”
The three Kalimas of Tauba we have mentioned above are quite easy to remember.
As a Tradition reads:
“Blessed, indeed, is the man in whose record the profusion of Tauba is written.”
Tauba
"Be careful to lower your gaze", "Do not take a second gaze", "Do not be alone with the person that you have asked to marry or who has asked you to marry them".
Those sayings from the Hadith are all good advice. This is to help men and women from falling into the woes of temptation.
We all, at sometime or another have been tempted to do things that is considered sinful. Perhaps our desire for someone that we are engaged to became a temptation that lead us to doing things that only should be done after the marriage. Maybe a stolen kiss, a touch of the hand, gazing into the eyes. Yes, all of these are No-Nos. One thing can lead to another, especially, if there is not a third party present.
To avoid this temptation, make sure that there is a relative present when with your future wife or future husband. Do not gaze into the persons eyes or passion may spring, try to avoid touching or the senses may take over. Much of this will be avoided, if a chaperon, a relative, or third person is accompanying the two of you.
Just know that. if there is no one accompanying you, that the third party may turn out to be the Shaitan. Meaning, he will be delighted to entertain those temptations which fall into sin.
Have your guard up at all times. If you should sin, feel ashamed, and sorrowful afterwards, come before Allah, repent, and ask for forgiveness.
The Tauba is where to start.
I beg the forgiveness of the Lord save Whom there is no God, the living, the Eternal. Unto Him do I turn penitent.
The Prophet has said, “Whoever will offer penitence to God and implore His forgiveness through this Kalima God will forgive him even if he has fled from the field of Jehad which is a most mortal sin in the sight of God.”
And again: “Whoever will recite this Kalima thrice before going to sleep God will forgive his sins even though they may be as profuse as the foam of the sea,”
Sometimes the sacred Prophet used to recite only (I implore the forgiveness of the Lord). It is a very brief phrase and we should try to cultivate the habit of repeating it every now and then.
Saiyyid-el-Istighfar
It is related that the holy Prophet once remarked that the following prayer was Saiyyid-el-Istighfar (the leader of all the prayer formulas of Istighfar).
O God! Thou art my Lord, There is no God save Thee. Thou art my Creator and I am Thy slave. I abide by Thy covenant and promise as best as I can. I seek refuge in Thee from the mischief of what I have wrought. I acknowledge unto Thee Thy favour which Thou hast bestowed upon me, I also confess mine inequity; so forgive me for none forgiveth sins save Thee.
Says the Prophet:
“He who will offer repentance and beg the forgiveness of God reciting this prayer with faith and sincerity during day-time then if he died on that day, before nightfall, he shall go to Heaven, and he who will recite it at night, with faith and sincerity, and then if he died on that night, before day-break, he shall go to Heaven.”
The three Kalimas of Tauba we have mentioned above are quite easy to remember.
As a Tradition reads:
“Blessed, indeed, is the man in whose record the profusion of Tauba is written.”
Tauba
Monday, October 1, 2012
Is the Truth being Concealed by a Life of Falsehoods?
From the Sura-2 Al-Baqara:
27 Those who break Allah's (God's) Covenant after it is ratified, and who sunder what Allah has ordered to be joined, and do mischief on earth: these cause loss(only) to themselves.
41And believe in what I reveal, confirming the revelation which is with you, and be not the first to reject Faith therein, nor sell My Signs for a small price; and Fear Me, and Me alone.
42And cover not Truth with falsehood, nor conceal the Truth when ye know(what it is).
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Remember when Moses was appointed to lead the men and the women from wrong? The people continued to worship idols and do grievous wrongs. Moses was even given Rules to distinguish between right and wrong. This gave the people a chance to be guided onto the right path. Time and time again the people where asked to repent to their Maker. Allah(God) was ready to forgive them, but they continued to rebel. Allah(God) was not harmed by this, the people only harmed themselves. If the people would only have bowed and asked forgiveness for their faults, they would have had much increase for doing good.
But, like people who rebel today, they kept returning to hurting themselves. For example, Allah(God) created men to be with women, and created women to be with men. The creation of man and his parts were never created to be with another man and his parts, or a woman's parts were never created for being with another woman and her parts. Also, Allah (God) does not condone Adultery or Fornication. Furthermore, Allah does not condone idol worship or the worship of graven images.
Because of rebellious behavior, people have indulged in grievous wrongs. With these wrongs, comes the spread of disease, like a plague in Pharoah's time, the break down of the family structure, and the abandonment of Faith.
The Truth is being distorted and covered up by those doing grievous wrongs and by those in support of those grievous wrongs. It is clearly revealed that the Truth is not to be concealed, or covered by Falsehoods, when you know what the Truth is. Even more, when the Truth is hidden and replaced with lies, the result is a terrible punishment and a greater punishment in the afterlife.
So, do not reject Faith. Become humble and rid yourselves of a rebellious nature. This will bring peace and order to individuals and to the family structure. Yes, truth is sometimes hurtful and may even cause anger. Why? Because there is always the fear of leaving what is comfortable or what is accepted by others. But, just because it is comfortable or just because it is beginning to gain acceptance, does not mean that it is the Truth in how it should be.
May all find Faith, Truth, and Peace. And, May peace be on this Nation and on this World. Always remember, God is Great, He never lies, and He never covers the Truth from us.
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