We all sometimes fall short.
"Be careful to lower your gaze", "Do not take a second gaze", "Do not be alone with the person that you have asked to marry or who has asked you to marry them".
Those sayings from the Hadith are all good advice. This is to help men and women from falling into the woes of temptation.
We all, at sometime or another have been tempted to do things that is considered sinful. Perhaps our desire for someone that we are engaged to became a temptation that lead us to doing things that only should be done after the marriage. Maybe a stolen kiss, a touch of the hand, gazing into the eyes. Yes, all of these are No-Nos. One thing can lead to another, especially, if there is not a third party present.
To avoid this temptation, make sure that there is a relative present when with your future wife or future husband. Do not gaze into the persons eyes or passion may spring, try to avoid touching or the senses may take over. Much of this will be avoided, if a chaperon, a relative, or third person is accompanying the two of you.
Just know that. if there is no one accompanying you, that the third party may turn out to be the Shaitan. Meaning, he will be delighted to entertain those temptations which fall into sin.
Have your guard up at all times. If you should sin, feel ashamed, and sorrowful afterwards, come before Allah, repent, and ask for forgiveness.
The Tauba is where to start.
I beg the forgiveness of the Lord save Whom there is no God, the living, the Eternal. Unto Him do I turn penitent.
The Prophet has said, “Whoever will offer penitence to God and implore His forgiveness through this Kalima God will forgive him even if he has fled from the field of Jehad which is a most mortal sin in the sight of God.”
And again: “Whoever will recite this Kalima thrice before going to sleep God will forgive his sins even though they may be as profuse as the foam of the sea,”
Sometimes the sacred Prophet used to recite only (I implore the forgiveness of the Lord). It is a very brief phrase and we should try to cultivate the habit of repeating it every now and then.
Saiyyid-el-Istighfar
It is related that the holy Prophet once remarked that the following prayer was Saiyyid-el-Istighfar (the leader of all the prayer formulas of Istighfar).
O God! Thou art my Lord, There is no God save Thee. Thou art my Creator and I am Thy slave. I abide by Thy covenant and promise as best as I can. I seek refuge in Thee from the mischief of what I have wrought. I acknowledge unto Thee Thy favour which Thou hast bestowed upon me, I also confess mine inequity; so forgive me for none forgiveth sins save Thee.
Says the Prophet:
“He who will offer repentance and beg the forgiveness of God reciting this prayer with faith and sincerity during day-time then if he died on that day, before nightfall, he shall go to Heaven, and he who will recite it at night, with faith and sincerity, and then if he died on that night, before day-break, he shall go to Heaven.”
The three Kalimas of Tauba we have mentioned above are quite easy to remember.
As a Tradition reads:
“Blessed, indeed, is the man in whose record the profusion of Tauba is written.”
Tauba
"Be careful to lower your gaze", "Do not take a second gaze", "Do not be alone with the person that you have asked to marry or who has asked you to marry them".
Those sayings from the Hadith are all good advice. This is to help men and women from falling into the woes of temptation.
We all, at sometime or another have been tempted to do things that is considered sinful. Perhaps our desire for someone that we are engaged to became a temptation that lead us to doing things that only should be done after the marriage. Maybe a stolen kiss, a touch of the hand, gazing into the eyes. Yes, all of these are No-Nos. One thing can lead to another, especially, if there is not a third party present.
To avoid this temptation, make sure that there is a relative present when with your future wife or future husband. Do not gaze into the persons eyes or passion may spring, try to avoid touching or the senses may take over. Much of this will be avoided, if a chaperon, a relative, or third person is accompanying the two of you.
Just know that. if there is no one accompanying you, that the third party may turn out to be the Shaitan. Meaning, he will be delighted to entertain those temptations which fall into sin.
Have your guard up at all times. If you should sin, feel ashamed, and sorrowful afterwards, come before Allah, repent, and ask for forgiveness.
The Tauba is where to start.
I beg the forgiveness of the Lord save Whom there is no God, the living, the Eternal. Unto Him do I turn penitent.
The Prophet has said, “Whoever will offer penitence to God and implore His forgiveness through this Kalima God will forgive him even if he has fled from the field of Jehad which is a most mortal sin in the sight of God.”
And again: “Whoever will recite this Kalima thrice before going to sleep God will forgive his sins even though they may be as profuse as the foam of the sea,”
Sometimes the sacred Prophet used to recite only (I implore the forgiveness of the Lord). It is a very brief phrase and we should try to cultivate the habit of repeating it every now and then.
Saiyyid-el-Istighfar
It is related that the holy Prophet once remarked that the following prayer was Saiyyid-el-Istighfar (the leader of all the prayer formulas of Istighfar).
O God! Thou art my Lord, There is no God save Thee. Thou art my Creator and I am Thy slave. I abide by Thy covenant and promise as best as I can. I seek refuge in Thee from the mischief of what I have wrought. I acknowledge unto Thee Thy favour which Thou hast bestowed upon me, I also confess mine inequity; so forgive me for none forgiveth sins save Thee.
Says the Prophet:
“He who will offer repentance and beg the forgiveness of God reciting this prayer with faith and sincerity during day-time then if he died on that day, before nightfall, he shall go to Heaven, and he who will recite it at night, with faith and sincerity, and then if he died on that night, before day-break, he shall go to Heaven.”
The three Kalimas of Tauba we have mentioned above are quite easy to remember.
As a Tradition reads:
“Blessed, indeed, is the man in whose record the profusion of Tauba is written.”
Tauba
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